WELCOME to another CBC Blog. Are you one of those people struggling with great ‘EXPECTATIONS?’ I am Christine & it’s my job to show you how you can live life at its best; so, step off the merry-go-round & get some perspective with….
That Mysterious “E” Word!
Winds of change sweep through the valleys igniting a sense of excitement; daylight saving is passed for another season and time aligns into perfect balance again, or so it seems. Autumn stirs the hills to rolling, with rain tumbling down across the mountains stirring the rivers to life. Soil soaks up every crystal-clear drop of icy mountain water, as the earth shoots forth in vibrant colour.
Grass seeds of various tones aglow with late afternoon sunlight radiating through the translucent fibres. Flashes of silver line majestic displays of cloudy sunsets like tinsel around a Christmas tree.
Nature shouts harmonious hallelujahs that echo out across the hazy dusk evenings; birds, insects and animals offer their gratitude as they recharge for cooler mornings ahead.
Autumn is the time of year when we can expect many things to change such as leaves to begin their annual descent from shades of green to shades of peachy red through to yellow until they eventually die and are shaken free from the tree, as they pile themselves, leaf upon leaf of the forest floor, warming the freezing earth beneath -a natural occurrence that we can expect to happen every season. But what about expecting other things in life; do you dare to even consider the subject?
There are two common lines of thought around expectancy:
- Don’t expect anything & then you won’t be disappointed
- Expect many things & you will at least receive some of what you expected.
I prefer the latter, but not being an expert of the subject, I enjoy listening to the opposing view, and it makes for interesting conversation in a world of people encountering so much disappointment.
The definition of ‘expectancy’ from google dictionary is:
“The state of thinking or hoping that something, especially something good, will happen.”
Attitudes around ‘expectancy’ have interrupted my focus many a time over the years, especially when I hear others discuss the subject. I am disturbed when I hear someone say:
“I don’t expect anything, and I don’t get disappointed.”
Sadness floods the inner caverns of my being when I hear that; I can appreciate that they are trying to keep themselves emotionally ‘safe’ in a very emotionally unsafe world. It sounds like they’ve experienced disappointment previously and maybe didn’t deal with it very well or still don’t know how to deal with it.
- Could it be that they are operating in fear?
- Could it be that they just can’t deal with the emotion of disappointment, and therefore spend their lives running from such opportunities?
- Could it be that the results of taking on such philosophical views to self-protect in the past that a staunch unsupportive belief has emerged unconsciously and when life attempts to open up their mind again, it is too tightly wedged shut?
I was flipping through the photos on my phone recently when I stopped at the end of the line which was a pic of a whiteboard, I had written on during a workshop I took for a group of single mothers last year. Three definitions were written on it:
- Expectation: a strong belief that something will happen
- Hope: a feeling of expectation and desire for something to happen
- Faith: complete trust or confidence in something
Faith also is an interesting subject; to me it’s not what you put your faith in but ‘who.’ My faith in God has given me a reason to be confident about ‘hoping for and expecting good things to happen;’ not to be misconstrued with ‘good things always happen’.
One of my favourite texts is from Jeremiah 29:11 –
“for I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans for good and not disaster, plans to prosper you, plans to give you hope and a future.”
It tells me that I can expect good things to come and I can hope for more; and when bad, horrible or even traumatic things happen (& they have), I can still expect, hope and have faith. If I employ a humble attitude and stand confidently, God will use that seemingly negative circumstance or situation and turn it into something good, if not amazing – hello!
A strong conviction of ‘authority’ has been pursuing my mind recently amongst this whole attitude of expectancy and after listening to Joyce Meyer speak on the subject, I decided to challenge my attitude and step into my authority and experience an ‘expectant’ day, before I get out of bed. One morning a couple of weeks ago I rose early to greet the day and give thanks and set my mind to believing that, as Joyce Meyer says:
“TODAY SOMETHING GOOD IS GOING TO HAPPEN TO ME &
SOMEHTING GOOD IS GOING TO HAPPEN THROUGH ME.”
My work day began as it usually does by turning on the computer and checking my daily and weekly calendar. I noticed a cancellation so I decided to go out and chat to our receptionist for a moment, who told me that one of my clients had left something for me. She had my attention, my curiosity was rising, whatever could it be? Another returned signed document, negative feedback or a request?
In a little gift bag was one of her skin care products that she makes. I’d been coaching this woman around her small business venture and it
|was no easy task.
lovely “thank you”
her gratitude for
work with me and
supportive of her.
Yes, but I did
know what? No
the point. Did it
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being able to
for being so
A total surprise?
choose to expect
that day. Did I
and that’s not
stop there? No,
as I was driving home and giving thanks for the day as is my usual practice, so grateful for the beautiful countryside and the satisfaction of a wonderful career and life in general; I was wishing for a rainbow since I hadn’t seen one for a while. Yes, you guessed it not more than two minutes later (after I’d forgotten about my request) there it was, not just one rainbow, but two! There are countless other stories I could tell but not with such conscious decision to ‘be expectant.’
Since being more responsible and purposeful for my attitude I’ve just noticed how much better my days are, and upon reflection how great they’ve been in the past when I had an ‘expectant’ attitude.
What we allow into our mind through what we listen to, what we see and what we think or meditate on has significant impact on our attitudes. We need to be listening to supportive voices, encouraging voices – our very own cheerleaders so to speak. Affirming promises are uplifting especially when they are genuine; how can you afford not to be expectant with promises like this from the book of Isaiah:
Even to your old age and grey hairs, I am He, I am He who will sustain you.
I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you.
The way I see it is this: it’s human to experience disappointment but, asking the “why me” is not smart, because every human on the planet experiences disappointment, trauma, pain, heart ache, injustice etc……. its par for the course. The smart question would be, “how do I best deal with this?”
One of the major ways I deal with it is to let my ‘history’ become a ‘testimony’ of encouragement for someone else who has gone through something similar. We may get knocked down at times, but knowing ones worth and value will give us the strength to get back up and keep a good attitude towards our gift of life. The Good Book tells us to:
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”
We just celebrated Easter all around the world; the very reason we can be expectant is because Christ rose from the dead, He is alive, He is powerful! If you don’t believe in God and His promises, then you only have yourself to rely on; if that’s the case then it’s understandable why some people choose not to be ‘expectant’ since they were disappointed years ago, they gave up trying and there’s nothing else to hang on to.
Because we are made in the image of God himself, and since He is a God who gives life to the dead and calls into being things that were not, we can live expectantly and victoriously, that’s a good reason to ‘raise a hallelujah;” if only we would choose to speak life over ourselves, especially in what seems like impossible situations.
“I’D RATHER ‘EXPECT’ MANY THINGS AND RECEIVE SOME OF THEM THAN SIT IN DISAPPOINTMENT AND LACK EXCITEMENT;”
which side of the fence do you choose to be on? Drop me a line, I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject…